Why Being a Mindful Mum Is More Important Than You Think
When you think of the word 'mindfulness', do you picture some stereotypical yoga pose, or one of those pictures where someone is randomly in a forest or on top of a mountain (posing for a photo, supposedly being 'mindful')? I know I used to. These days, though, I think mindfulness is becoming so much more. It's encapsulates so many aspects of life, and our attitude towards life. It's time to start changing the way we think about mindfulness, and seeing how important it really is.
So, what is mindfulness?
Here are some official definitions:
"The quality or state of being conscious or aware of something."
"Mindfulness means maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment." - Greater Good Science Center at the University of California at Berkeley
Mindfulness is about using our brains, and our hearts, to make decisions - decisions about how we will act and react in any given moment. That means being aware of our thoughts, feelings, and values. It means making purposeful choices, not subconscious and thoughtless ones - or just doing what's normal/accepted, without stopping to question things. It means being aware of what's going on around us too - the social pressures, our environment, our relationships and more. It is about being able to say, this is what I choose, fully in alignment with my values, morals, feelings and best logical thinking.
Mindfulness is not about yoga or being in nature. Those things just help us to reach a state of mindfulness, as they help us unplug from all the noise of our lives and be able to properly listen to our feelings and think through things strategically too. Mindfulness means giving your full mind (aka mindful) to a situation/decision/event/choice/habit/etc.
Being mindful has the potential to affect our whole lives, and especially the way we parent our kids. It's about working out what our values and priorities are, and making conscious choices to actually live that way. It's about not just going along with what's trendy or promoted, but working out for ourselves the way we want to live.
And teaching our kids to do the same.
Here's where I am applying mindfulness this year:
- My relationships
- Enjoying motherhood
- Our priorities
I hope, going forward with this blog, to share more with you in each of these categories, and that you'll come along on the journey with me.
Where do you sense you need to be more mindful?